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What do I Want ? How Will I Know When I Have Found It?
This article is about our personal values, what matters to us on a deep level. My personal values are honesty, freedom and passion. Values underpin all out thoughts feelings and behaviours they map out how we see the world. Looking at client’s values is an important part of what I do through coaching. In dating coaching understanding your values and believes can help you realise what you want, it allows you to understand yourself better, and find what you are looking for and maybe why you aren’t currently getting it. Finding out this information will instantly allow you to only start looking for it, and stop doing the things that prevent you getting or finding the relationship you want and stop wasting time on dates and relationships that are not right for you.
How to get in touch with your values!
Think about someone you really admire they can be someone you know or a famous person, what is it you admire about them?
Make a list: describe the things you really value about them.
Think about each one carefully: they can be things like, honesty, freedom, creativity, security, stability, spontaneity etc.
Think about each one of these values in detail, what does this mean to you? Write this down.
Are these also likely to be your values, what we often admire in others and are attracted to in partners are often the things we value in ourselves. Reflect on what your values could be, when you know you want something from a relationship there is usually a core value behind it that it matches.
When dating coaching I then ask clients to think about the values the want their ideal man or woman to have, after all if you don’t know what you’re looking for how will you know when you find it?
For Example
Client: I want someone with a good job.
Glow: If you had a relationship with a good job what would that give you?
Client: Stability
Glow: If you had a relationship with someone who is stable, what would that give you?
Client: It shows they are responsible
Glow: If you had a relationship with someone who is responsible, what would that give you?
Client: Trust
Trust = Core Value.
If you explore several things you want in a relationship and each time you come back to the same value then this is your core value. You can then start looking for it.
The next step is to think about past relationships have any of your previous partners matched these values? How will you know when you meet someone who does? What proof or evidence can you look for that the next man/woman you meet matches the values that are important to you? How will he/she act, what will they say, what signs can you look out for?
I had one client who had never stopped to analyse what she wanted in a partner and just went for the first man that showed any interest, unfortunately she ended up in a short and unhappy marriage. After coaching she analysed her values and started to realise that her husband did not match her values and that they just weren’t right for each other, this helped her to accept that it was right for her to end the relationship and also what to look for in her next relationship. Happily she has found the man of her dreams who matches all of the things she was looking for and after 4 months is engaged and getting married in May 2011!
Hope you found this useful. Next Blog we will continue looking at other aspects of dating that coaching can help with. Don’t forget to check out my website at www.glow-coaching.co.uk or join the Glow Coaching Facebook Group.
Remember all Network UK Dating customers receive 15% discount telephone coaching sessions. Looking forward to working with you. Get GLOWING!
Bye for now
Liz – Personal Coach Glow Coaching
Post bank holiday blues here at Network UK Dating so we thought we would give our wonderful customer service team a quick mention. The customer service side of our online dating network is one of the most important features which we offer to our members. The customer service team, based in the UK, are there to answer any of your questions or problems you may have. This could range from billing inquiries to membership questions.
All the staff are trained customer service professionals and offer a friendly efficient service over the phone or via a web based enquiry system. We want your online dating experience to be the very best possible so if you have any unanswered questions or even ideas why not get in touch.
The customer service team is available to all of our members and contact options can be found at the bottom of each dating network site.